Theologian Max Warren (1904-1977) came up with 7 Rules for Interreligious Dialogue (IRD). Each of these are quite valuable. But each of them seem also to provide the basis for an equivalent rule for Pastoral Conversation. So we will list each rule both for IRD and for Pastoral Conversation (PC).
Rule #1: Acceptance of our Common Humanity
IRD. Dialogue is not between two ideologies or religions, but between two people… created in the image of God.
PC. The client is not a label or a category of person. The client is a human being created in God’s image… fearfully and wonderfully made.
Rule #2: Divine Omnipresence
IRD. Entering into a dialogue, one is not entering alone. God is there, and has prepared the situation long before one arrived.
PC. Expect that God is present in every pastoral conversation and before every conversation.
Rule #3: Accepting the best in the other
IRD. Don’t focus on what is bad about other religions… also freely acknowledge their good points. Be open to admit failings in one’s own faith as well.
PC. Enter the conversation non-judgmentally. The client is not defined by his or her weaknesses and failures. Acknowledge you have weaknesses as well… as a ‘wounded healer.’
Rule #4: Identification
IRD. Attempt to understand them as if you were one of them. Think incarnationally. Imaginatively “walk in their shoes” to understand what they believe, why they believe it, and why it makes sense to them.
PC. Try to understand the client’s situation through the eyes of the client. Seek, as much as possible, to understand what he/she is going through.
Rule #5: Courtesy
IRD. Dialogue with identifiable respect– identifiable by the other in ones words, demeanor, and actions.
PC. Respect your client, and demonstrate that respect in word and deed.
Rule #6: Interpretation
IRD. Sharing one’s faith to another is not one of proclamation or didactics. Rather it is one of interpretation… contextualization… translation. Attempting to make one’s faith understandable within the symbol structure of the other, NOT one’s own structure.
PC. Demonstrate God’s love and message for the client in a manner that the client can identify with and respond to. This means focusing on how he/she thinks and feels rather than how you think and feel.
Rule #7. Expectation
IRD. God is at work in the dialogue, and one should be expectant that this work will ultimately bear fruit in one way or another… in the other AND in oneself.
PC. God ultimately is the great healer. As such, recognize that God is the one who is at work and will continue to work long after the conversation is over.
While it is certain that these are not all the rules associated with pastoral conversation (for example, a good 8th rule is that one should listen more and talk less), these 7 still are a good starting place —both in interreligious dialogue, and pastoral conversation.
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